My Relatives: Heads and Tails - 2

So, as I had mentioned earlier about my Mami and what a royal bitch she had become god knows acting under whose influence or probably just being a poor judge of the entire situation itself. Anyhow, that is something which can happen to anyone of course. For all I know she must be a little mad at the state of affairs regarding her husband's family situation and all, but what I most hated in that E-mail she sent to my mother was the constant mention of pushing things regarding my grand dad, I mean common dude, grow up and call me old fashioned or narrow minded here but for quite sometime I used to think that it was the sons in the family who were suppose to take care of such things and not make their sister's life miserable like this. I mean even when my grand mom was alive I have heard and seen such incidents that used to make me feel what jerks these two brothers really are. Despite the fact that my mom's elder brother stays so close to my grand parent's house my mother still had to come rushing every time all the way from Mirzapur every time something would happen to either my grand dad or my grand mom. Okay, I agree that it is something she should not be neglecting and she clearly hasn't ever but there's a very thin line between being concerned and caring and having extraordinary expectation from someone for each and everything you know. Clearly, this was the latter. Not to forget the fact that since my mom's younger brother stays outside India he is always too pushy regarding the smallest things and always feels the need to make up for the lack of presence and helplessness due to professional and personal reasons. Dude if you really are so concerned like to show it so much all the time then why the hell do you have to stay outside the country and then poke and pinch at every small thing that's happening at the other end. I am sure he realizes the fact that the two people taking care of his folks there are elder and more mature and more responsible than he could ever be, yet he has to act as though god knows what has or can go wrong even under their watch.
Anyways, moving on from here to similar "magnificent" relatives of mine. Since I have in depth and considerable detail mentioned so much about my mom's younger brother's wife I strongly feel I would be doing injustice if I left out her elder brother's wife here. It just won't be fair you know. So, this woman is even more profound and dynamic a bitch than the one I wrote a freakin' essay about.To start with I just fail to understand what on this beautiful planet it was that my mom's elder brother saw in that woman and decided that he has to has to get married to her no matter what happens even if all hell breaks lose, that is the one thing he must ensure he does before his life comes to a virtual stand still, failing to realize that this woman he is hell bent on spending his entire life with is quite capable and trained to make his life a living saga of misery and regrets, yet knowing all that he went on with it and decided to get married to her and now, fuck!! how I wish I could leave it at NOW, but I just can't. Now things have become even more miserable and pathetic to say the least. She has successfully managed to abandon him from his very own family with involvements and interactions that I don't think she is even aware of since he cannot tell her about them. He comes to look up my grand dad everyday but, I have a very strong feeling that she is not aware of these daily visits. Also, whenever she goes away to her home town or somewhere alone for any reason, that is when he is so much better and at ease and would come to have meals with us. Its like he is tied to this rope of marriage and no matter what he tries to do he can't get rid of it or untie this knot he tied himself into. To put it very bluntly, he is Fucked for life. Till date I don't know what it really was that made him convince my grand mom and dad about this marriage, what was it about her at that point of time that pushed him to actually having such a conversation, sometimes I think probably she lured him into the marriage and made sure her intentions went completely unknown from there onwards up until the time they were officially declared as a married couple. What a shrewd little bitch ain't she?, but I don't the real deal here so this is just a random guess I've made keeping in mind the kind of person she is. There is absolutely no one and when I say no one I mean not even a single bloody soul in our family who gets along with that woman purely because of the way she is and who she is. Coming to her daughter, like I said before she is just a more perfected and updated version of her mother, outright self centered and in general just too full of herself and overflowing with the kind of attitude one would say after seeing," get over yourself bitch". She just you know thinks too much of herself as though god knows who the hell she is and what world changing stuff she has done her entire doomed life that people should hear and be proud of. Engrossed in her career she has already made a mess of her personal life and that too with flying colors. Till date I repent on the hell I was succumbed to during her marriage in 2008. I mean seriously that was some A-grade variety of crap that I had come across during that entire time. From being forced to walk down the wedding aisle holding that heavy piece of cloth wrapped metal shit to going all the fuckin' way from pragati maidan to punjabi bagh at 3 in the morning to drop her in a car at her in-laws place and then spending time their and coming back not to forget that I was also made to push the damn car in which she was suppose to go there as some customary tradition in the groom's family. I mean Fuck Me!! what on Earth did I do to deserve this, but I had my cold blooded revenge knowing that she got divorced within a year or so after that god forsaken marriage. Sweet!! Honestly it is after experiencing such things I wonder how these people can live their lives the way they do and be the jerks that they are to everyone. Anyhow, I guess for such people destiny is the devil, despicable in all forms and outright delusional until it draws you into itself.
Now, I am presuming that I have written quite a bit about my mother's side of the family, so its time to FLIP the coin and move on to my father's family. Before I go any further there are some things I would like to mention before hand. My father's family is relatively big, he has three sisters and one elder brother which makes him the youngest member of his family and just like the theory goes the most spoilt and pampered one as well. His three sisters my buas or as his family calls them my nani's, two of them are settled outside the country and one i.e. the eldest in his family is in Ahmedabad. His elder brother is a Brigadier in the Indian Armed Forces and is currently posted in Udampur, Jammu and Kashmir. My grandfather i.e. my dad's dad passed away even before I was born as a matter of fact he passed away in the same year I was born. If I can be honest here, my birth was something he was really looking forward to since he had seen all the grand children by saying that I mean up until that time and since he knew I was coming that year from what I have been told he was a little enthusiastic and this is not something I am writing just to brag about myself but it is quite the truth, call me a showoff if you want to but that's really not the point I am trying to make here. Now that I have given a little insight on this, let me get back to the point and continue from where I left off. His side of the family really doesn't have any such people whom one would hate like the ones I have spoken about and now that I closely think about it, there aren't any such despicable relatives he has.
More on his side of the family in my next post, for now I leave you with this and much more to think about once your done reading this.

Cheers and take care.

Anuj Das.

My Relatives: Heads and Tails.

Well, as far as my family is concerned, my mom's side and my dad's side like I said before have some wonderful as well as those relatives that one doesn't like to talk about, but this is my blog so I shall write whatever seems right to me in any way. Starting from my mother's side like always ladies first. Her side of the family is undoubtedly quite big. For starters her father has six or seven brothers and two sisters. Quite unfortunately he is the only sibling alive amongst all of them as far as I know, I maybe wrong also but never the less. From what I have been told by my mom he is the youngest of the lot, his elder sister i.e. Sheel aunty passed away recently couple of years back and so did my grand mom i.e. my mom's mother. As much or for as long as I have known or have been told about her, she was quite a fun person. She really liked playing cards with her small group of friends she had in Bombay, she used to stay with her youngest son my uncle. She also enjoyed sitting and chatting and cracking jokes and basically having a good time. She was very fond of my father for some reason even I don't know. Her two sons and daughter are also quite fun loving people. The youngest son especially, he is a real dude, I am really fond of him, we call him Babbu Mamu. In India a mother's brother cousin or real is referred to as Mamu. He is a killer guy. Likes to party and drink and have a ball whenever he has an opportunity to and likes to go on holidays too. His son Aman and wife Baby Mami are also lovely people. Aman is in the merchant navy so he's mostly on the ship away from home, real dude he is. Sheel aunty's elder son Gullu Mamu and family stay in Pune. He has two daughters Neha and Megha both are married. One lives in South Africa and the other stays here in Pune only. He is really close to my elder brother Rohit. The reason behind that is Rohit has done his Mechanical engineering from Pune so he was in close touch with him for 5 years. He used to go and spend weekends at his place and visit them quite often. As a matter of fact for Neha's wedding he was involved quite seriously since her real brother Aman wasn't there due to his merchant navy. The wedding was awesome by the way, I also enjoyed although I was just in the 11th grade. Sadly, I could not make it to Megha's wedding due to my semester examinations but thats cool I guess, she does understand all that although I hardly feel that she cares much about the fact that I didn't attend her wedding. God knows man, I wasn't really close to their family like my elder brother. Finally their sister Kuki Masi, she stays in New Delhi only. We refer to our mom's sister cousin or real as Masi in India. She also has a son and daughter. Gaurav bhaiya and Mini didi and both are married with kids.Their family is also really sweet and caring and loving. Kuki Masi is quite close to my mother since probably child hood.
I was once told by Babbu Mamu about this incident where he had gone to meet my mother when she was completing her post graduation in New Delhi and he took her to a Disc and told her to sit at one place while he goes and has a look around the whole place. Haha!! naughty he always was from the very beginning and really mischievous too. All of them have been really close to one another since childhood. They have really had some great times back in the days when they were young and all just like typical brothers and sisters do you know, making each other's lives miserable by irritating one another and playing pranks on each other, all that kind of stuff. Must be real fun having to spend your childhood with so many brothers and sisters around you most of the time. On so many occasions I have heard my mom telling us stories and incidents from her childhood about all of this. Quite fun I must say.
Coming to my mom's immediate family now, she has two brothers one elder and one younger. The elder one is a doctor here in New Delhi and stays pretty close to where my grand dad stays. The younger one is in the United States of America in California. Both of them are married and have a daughter. Now, to be quite honest I don't really like both of them since you know they are kind of weird especially the elder one. The family he has which is his wife and daughter are people I really don't feel like associating myself with, but they are family at the end of the day and one can't really do much about it since acceptance of existence of such family people is something that is quite hard for me. To be really specific here its his wife and daughter and bug the living life out of me and even my elder brother. Both of them are such pathetic people that its just hard to believe what on Earth was my mamu thinking when he got married to this self centered bitch of a woman. I mean is it really so hard to figure such things out and now that he is married there isn't much he can do about it but just play along and continue being miserable like her and their daughter. About their daughter, well for starters she is quite the bitch in continuation of my mami since she thinks too much of herself and tends to feel that just because she is the eldest amongst us all, she should be given importance and shit like that which makes me want to slap her so hard that her jaw just falls in her hand and her bloody face is disfigured for life. A terrible and painful incident of her personal life which I like to make fun of always whenever I can is that her engagement broke shortly after she got engaged and then the thing that really takes the cake is that despite that broken engagement when she did end up getting married to someone, she was divorced within a year of that crap of a marriage since their professional life was not allowing them to give each other any personal time. However you want to put it, everybody knows what the truth is woman, so building a wall of lies won't really help your cause if not make it worse for you. Then, my mom's younger brother, like I said before the unwritten rule of the youngest one being pampered the most in their entire life stands as it is, he was pampered the most in their family and turned out to be quite stubborn and shit. His wife till quite some time seemed all nice and good to me, but then as it turns out she became a total bitch. Firstly, he has a freaking temper problem, always gets really hyper and ends up shouting and being a jerk. I still remember this one wedding anniversary of theirs where he had such a terrible fight with his wife that my mom and her elder brother and my dad had to interfere and stop him from hitting her and shit. Seeing all that happen I felt so bad about his wife and what she went through and stuff but now, I think she bloody deserved all and every single bit of that animal like treatment from him.
I will tell you exactly why I feel this way about her. Early last year during February or March she wrote an Email to my mother titled "A Request from My Heart" in which she wrote about how everything seems so sweet and nice when her husband is on Skype with my grand dad but how no one gets to see the real ugly picture of what follows after. She went on to hold my mother responsible for them not being able to have a second child and how her husband because of responsibilities towards my grand dad was not being able to find any time or pay any attention to their 8 year old daughter and the kind of tension he was always in regarding my grand dad and the pressure of living in another country and his job and shit like that, she went to the extent of writing something like this," I am sure he(my grand dad) would not want to outlive his own son." Screw you bitch, if you feel that way how about talking to your husband regarding all this first and then forming any kind of opinion about it, I mean can you even imagine some one living in a place like California and having such a narrow minded approach towards such family situations, God!! such people don't deserve anything in life man. Also not to forget the fact that she even mentioned how thinking about all this all the time has got her husband dark circles around his eyes and his vitals are not too good and stuff like that. Fuck you man, don't you ever think before you even say such things to anyone. Spelling out your husband's misery to his sister is no way of making your intentions clear you know.
Anyways, this is just a glimpse of what is to come from me regarding my family relatives. As disappointing as it may seem there are such people in this world who are part of my family out of all the other families on this entire planet. I am ending this here, but more to come in my next post for sure. A pondering thought before I make my trademark signing off from here. After reading all this where does one stand on taking care of one's parents once they have lived majority of their lives and want to live the rest of it rather more peacefully and even more satisfied seeing the people whom they created and nurtured be a part of it and be happy and content living their own personal lives and not like this, all miserable and full of burdens. Think about it!!

Cheers and take care people.

Anuj Das.