Well, as far as my family is concerned, my mom's side and my dad's side like I said before have some wonderful as well as those relatives that one doesn't like to talk about, but this is my blog so I shall write whatever seems right to me in any way. Starting from my mother's side like always ladies first. Her side of the family is undoubtedly quite big. For starters her father has six or seven brothers and two sisters. Quite unfortunately he is the only sibling alive amongst all of them as far as I know, I maybe wrong also but never the less. From what I have been told by my mom he is the youngest of the lot, his elder sister i.e. Sheel aunty passed away recently couple of years back and so did my grand mom i.e. my mom's mother. As much or for as long as I have known or have been told about her, she was quite a fun person. She really liked playing cards with her small group of friends she had in Bombay, she used to stay with her youngest son my uncle. She also enjoyed sitting and chatting and cracking jokes and basically having a good time. She was very fond of my father for some reason even I don't know. Her two sons and daughter are also quite fun loving people. The youngest son especially, he is a real dude, I am really fond of him, we call him Babbu Mamu. In India a mother's brother cousin or real is referred to as Mamu. He is a killer guy. Likes to party and drink and have a ball whenever he has an opportunity to and likes to go on holidays too. His son Aman and wife Baby Mami are also lovely people. Aman is in the merchant navy so he's mostly on the ship away from home, real dude he is. Sheel aunty's elder son Gullu Mamu and family stay in Pune. He has two daughters Neha and Megha both are married. One lives in South Africa and the other stays here in Pune only. He is really close to my elder brother Rohit. The reason behind that is Rohit has done his Mechanical engineering from Pune so he was in close touch with him for 5 years. He used to go and spend weekends at his place and visit them quite often. As a matter of fact for Neha's wedding he was involved quite seriously since her real brother Aman wasn't there due to his merchant navy. The wedding was awesome by the way, I also enjoyed although I was just in the 11th grade. Sadly, I could not make it to Megha's wedding due to my semester examinations but thats cool I guess, she does understand all that although I hardly feel that she cares much about the fact that I didn't attend her wedding. God knows man, I wasn't really close to their family like my elder brother. Finally their sister Kuki Masi, she stays in New Delhi only. We refer to our mom's sister cousin or real as Masi in India. She also has a son and daughter. Gaurav bhaiya and Mini didi and both are married with kids.Their family is also really sweet and caring and loving. Kuki Masi is quite close to my mother since probably child hood.
I was once told by Babbu Mamu about this incident where he had gone to meet my mother when she was completing her post graduation in New Delhi and he took her to a Disc and told her to sit at one place while he goes and has a look around the whole place. Haha!! naughty he always was from the very beginning and really mischievous too. All of them have been really close to one another since childhood. They have really had some great times back in the days when they were young and all just like typical brothers and sisters do you know, making each other's lives miserable by irritating one another and playing pranks on each other, all that kind of stuff. Must be real fun having to spend your childhood with so many brothers and sisters around you most of the time. On so many occasions I have heard my mom telling us stories and incidents from her childhood about all of this. Quite fun I must say.
Coming to my mom's immediate family now, she has two brothers one elder and one younger. The elder one is a doctor here in New Delhi and stays pretty close to where my grand dad stays. The younger one is in the United States of America in California. Both of them are married and have a daughter. Now, to be quite honest I don't really like both of them since you know they are kind of weird especially the elder one. The family he has which is his wife and daughter are people I really don't feel like associating myself with, but they are family at the end of the day and one can't really do much about it since acceptance of existence of such family people is something that is quite hard for me. To be really specific here its his wife and daughter and bug the living life out of me and even my elder brother. Both of them are such pathetic people that its just hard to believe what on Earth was my mamu thinking when he got married to this self centered bitch of a woman. I mean is it really so hard to figure such things out and now that he is married there isn't much he can do about it but just play along and continue being miserable like her and their daughter. About their daughter, well for starters she is quite the bitch in continuation of my mami since she thinks too much of herself and tends to feel that just because she is the eldest amongst us all, she should be given importance and shit like that which makes me want to slap her so hard that her jaw just falls in her hand and her bloody face is disfigured for life. A terrible and painful incident of her personal life which I like to make fun of always whenever I can is that her engagement broke shortly after she got engaged and then the thing that really takes the cake is that despite that broken engagement when she did end up getting married to someone, she was divorced within a year of that crap of a marriage since their professional life was not allowing them to give each other any personal time. However you want to put it, everybody knows what the truth is woman, so building a wall of lies won't really help your cause if not make it worse for you. Then, my mom's younger brother, like I said before the unwritten rule of the youngest one being pampered the most in their entire life stands as it is, he was pampered the most in their family and turned out to be quite stubborn and shit. His wife till quite some time seemed all nice and good to me, but then as it turns out she became a total bitch. Firstly, he has a freaking temper problem, always gets really hyper and ends up shouting and being a jerk. I still remember this one wedding anniversary of theirs where he had such a terrible fight with his wife that my mom and her elder brother and my dad had to interfere and stop him from hitting her and shit. Seeing all that happen I felt so bad about his wife and what she went through and stuff but now, I think she bloody deserved all and every single bit of that animal like treatment from him.
I will tell you exactly why I feel this way about her. Early last year during February or March she wrote an Email to my mother titled "A Request from My Heart" in which she wrote about how everything seems so sweet and nice when her husband is on Skype with my grand dad but how no one gets to see the real ugly picture of what follows after. She went on to hold my mother responsible for them not being able to have a second child and how her husband because of responsibilities towards my grand dad was not being able to find any time or pay any attention to their 8 year old daughter and the kind of tension he was always in regarding my grand dad and the pressure of living in another country and his job and shit like that, she went to the extent of writing something like this," I am sure he(my grand dad) would not want to outlive his own son." Screw you bitch, if you feel that way how about talking to your husband regarding all this first and then forming any kind of opinion about it, I mean can you even imagine some one living in a place like California and having such a narrow minded approach towards such family situations, God!! such people don't deserve anything in life man. Also not to forget the fact that she even mentioned how thinking about all this all the time has got her husband dark circles around his eyes and his vitals are not too good and stuff like that. Fuck you man, don't you ever think before you even say such things to anyone. Spelling out your husband's misery to his sister is no way of making your intentions clear you know.
Anyways, this is just a glimpse of what is to come from me regarding my family relatives. As disappointing as it may seem there are such people in this world who are part of my family out of all the other families on this entire planet. I am ending this here, but more to come in my next post for sure. A pondering thought before I make my trademark signing off from here. After reading all this where does one stand on taking care of one's parents once they have lived majority of their lives and want to live the rest of it rather more peacefully and even more satisfied seeing the people whom they created and nurtured be a part of it and be happy and content living their own personal lives and not like this, all miserable and full of burdens. Think about it!!
Cheers and take care people.
Anuj Das.
I was once told by Babbu Mamu about this incident where he had gone to meet my mother when she was completing her post graduation in New Delhi and he took her to a Disc and told her to sit at one place while he goes and has a look around the whole place. Haha!! naughty he always was from the very beginning and really mischievous too. All of them have been really close to one another since childhood. They have really had some great times back in the days when they were young and all just like typical brothers and sisters do you know, making each other's lives miserable by irritating one another and playing pranks on each other, all that kind of stuff. Must be real fun having to spend your childhood with so many brothers and sisters around you most of the time. On so many occasions I have heard my mom telling us stories and incidents from her childhood about all of this. Quite fun I must say.
Coming to my mom's immediate family now, she has two brothers one elder and one younger. The elder one is a doctor here in New Delhi and stays pretty close to where my grand dad stays. The younger one is in the United States of America in California. Both of them are married and have a daughter. Now, to be quite honest I don't really like both of them since you know they are kind of weird especially the elder one. The family he has which is his wife and daughter are people I really don't feel like associating myself with, but they are family at the end of the day and one can't really do much about it since acceptance of existence of such family people is something that is quite hard for me. To be really specific here its his wife and daughter and bug the living life out of me and even my elder brother. Both of them are such pathetic people that its just hard to believe what on Earth was my mamu thinking when he got married to this self centered bitch of a woman. I mean is it really so hard to figure such things out and now that he is married there isn't much he can do about it but just play along and continue being miserable like her and their daughter. About their daughter, well for starters she is quite the bitch in continuation of my mami since she thinks too much of herself and tends to feel that just because she is the eldest amongst us all, she should be given importance and shit like that which makes me want to slap her so hard that her jaw just falls in her hand and her bloody face is disfigured for life. A terrible and painful incident of her personal life which I like to make fun of always whenever I can is that her engagement broke shortly after she got engaged and then the thing that really takes the cake is that despite that broken engagement when she did end up getting married to someone, she was divorced within a year of that crap of a marriage since their professional life was not allowing them to give each other any personal time. However you want to put it, everybody knows what the truth is woman, so building a wall of lies won't really help your cause if not make it worse for you. Then, my mom's younger brother, like I said before the unwritten rule of the youngest one being pampered the most in their entire life stands as it is, he was pampered the most in their family and turned out to be quite stubborn and shit. His wife till quite some time seemed all nice and good to me, but then as it turns out she became a total bitch. Firstly, he has a freaking temper problem, always gets really hyper and ends up shouting and being a jerk. I still remember this one wedding anniversary of theirs where he had such a terrible fight with his wife that my mom and her elder brother and my dad had to interfere and stop him from hitting her and shit. Seeing all that happen I felt so bad about his wife and what she went through and stuff but now, I think she bloody deserved all and every single bit of that animal like treatment from him.
I will tell you exactly why I feel this way about her. Early last year during February or March she wrote an Email to my mother titled "A Request from My Heart" in which she wrote about how everything seems so sweet and nice when her husband is on Skype with my grand dad but how no one gets to see the real ugly picture of what follows after. She went on to hold my mother responsible for them not being able to have a second child and how her husband because of responsibilities towards my grand dad was not being able to find any time or pay any attention to their 8 year old daughter and the kind of tension he was always in regarding my grand dad and the pressure of living in another country and his job and shit like that, she went to the extent of writing something like this," I am sure he(my grand dad) would not want to outlive his own son." Screw you bitch, if you feel that way how about talking to your husband regarding all this first and then forming any kind of opinion about it, I mean can you even imagine some one living in a place like California and having such a narrow minded approach towards such family situations, God!! such people don't deserve anything in life man. Also not to forget the fact that she even mentioned how thinking about all this all the time has got her husband dark circles around his eyes and his vitals are not too good and stuff like that. Fuck you man, don't you ever think before you even say such things to anyone. Spelling out your husband's misery to his sister is no way of making your intentions clear you know.
Anyways, this is just a glimpse of what is to come from me regarding my family relatives. As disappointing as it may seem there are such people in this world who are part of my family out of all the other families on this entire planet. I am ending this here, but more to come in my next post for sure. A pondering thought before I make my trademark signing off from here. After reading all this where does one stand on taking care of one's parents once they have lived majority of their lives and want to live the rest of it rather more peacefully and even more satisfied seeing the people whom they created and nurtured be a part of it and be happy and content living their own personal lives and not like this, all miserable and full of burdens. Think about it!!
Cheers and take care people.
Anuj Das.
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